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Ini adalah saat tepat untuk benar-benar mencari pasangan yang tepat. Kalau misalnya gak cocok saat masa karantina bersama, mungkin dia bukan orang yang tepat buat kita. "}]}]},{"object":"block","type":"paragraph","data":{},"nodes":[{"object":"text","leaves":[{"marks":[],"object":"leaf","text":"Nah, kalau yang terpaksa harus LDR, ini juga momen yang cukup tepat untuk me-"},{"marks":[{"data":{},"object":"mark","type":"italic"}],"object":"leaf","text":"maintenance "},{"marks":[],"object":"leaf","text":"kebosanan. Jadi gini, kebosanan itu kan sebuah momok. Banyak orang yang berpikir, “Wah, gue tuh nantinya menikah. 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